8 weeks ago, I started an HR Manager role - my first ever legitimate human resources position. I did HR-related things at my last job, but this is my first experience in HR officially. Not only am I new to human resources, I'm new to the field I am in.
While my boss (the HR Director) said there would be training and time for me to adjust to the new field, I feel I'm left to my own devices and get critiqued when I try to lean on her for support. During my 5th week, she told me I needed to stop coming to her with questions and I needed to learn what was actually urgent vs things that could wait. She said as a manager, I needed to figure it out and take initiative. While I agree with her about the scope of a manager, when I have searched our resources, spoken with colleagues, and made a decision, she always has constructive feedback that there could have been a better decision. She's said that she wants to feel relief that "I've got it" and she isn't there yet, and praises other employees in the office for how competent they are, which feels like a dig since I'm still very obviously catching up to speed and they've been there for a year+.
I'm feeling at a loss. She was busy my first week so our training time was interrupted, she was out the whole second week due to a pre-planned vacation, and she's made it known that she isn't as approachable as she made herself seem when I first started.
Additionally, there were two situations this week that's left me doubting the company's integrity, and I'm torn between - is this really HR and I actually hate it, or is my boss/company terrible?